Why is conflict inevitable?
There is this idea among people who consider themselves to be spiritual that conflict should be always avoided and all efforts should be invested in maintaining a state of peace. Some call it bliss and it is the most desired state for most spiritual seekers.
Let’s reconsider this idea for the sake of a better understanding of the nature of life and human evolution.
As long as one subscribed for a life experience in physicality – in 3D, it’s childish or at least utopic to believe that conflicts, struggles, pain and suffer can be avoided.
This article’s topic is CONFLICT so we’ll focus on that. Let’s see this in a wider spectrum: a conflict can be internalized or externalized and can reach all level of intensity.
Due to the complexity of human psychology, the intricacy of the human mind, the depth and sensitivity of the human heart and on top of that the mysteries of the spiritual self – we might have all sorts of internal conflicts on all of these levels.
The human individual is way to complex meaning it’s literally a conglomerate of mainly 3 aspects: body-mind-spirit. It’s a life time job to bring these aspects into harmony to the best of one’s ability.
Conflict in inevitable. It’s always internal first and then it reflects into our external reality. We might not be aware but this reflection is quite accurate.
What do we understand by conflict?
A conflict arises whenever there is a contradiction between some elements in an individual or between parts in society or between two individuals or more.
There are various manifestations from a innocent quarrel to a more noisy expressions up to violence, fights, wars, severed communication, inappropriate communication, ineffective communication. Let’s not forget that conflicts always start inside and because we fail to reconcile our inside aspects they will be mirrored by our most immediate reality so we can see them and deal with them.
What’s the message behind any conflict ?
The message behind any conflict is: you have to deal with your garbage now! It’s not possible to look the other way anymore. A conflict is your subconscious screaming at you: I can’t make it more obvious than that!
How to deal with conflict ?
First and foremost deal with it instead of turning a blind eye on it!
If you choose to pretend it’s not there it will eat you on the inside on an individual level. Eventually it will manifest externally in more and more disturbing ways, it will keep coming back to you through different people and different situations but under the same theme. If you fail to even recognize the recurring theme not to mention to deal with it, no worries, your soul will choose a new incarnation or as many as necessary just to have a chance to sort this out.
Your soul’s mission is expansion / learning / awareness. God itself becomes aware of itself whenever you choose to understand and integrate your fears / traumas.
There are two main factors that influence a conflict unraveling:
1. The level of consciousness of the parts involved ( individuals/ organizations / societies / governments /etc.
2. If there is a true, genuine core desire for resolution.
Most of the time there isn’t. I repeat: most of the time there is no sincere and clear intention for reconciliation. Most of the time the parts involved are primarily concerned with their own vanity and pride and pointing fingers.
Each and every one of us falls under this category. Some of us are becoming aware of these egotistic mechanisms that we operate on. It takes time and effort to identify them and overcome them. Some of us have been working hard to bring the light of awareness, integrate it and stabilize it.
Just a quick trivial example:
One has a fight with his romantic partner. Does one think at the objective causes of the fight which usually are unresolved traumas or unconscious ideas about what love should be or not? No. One usually wants to prove himself/herself right and proving where the other is wrong. That leads to actions that are more or less vengeful.
Instead of choosing to approach conflict with compassion and the desire to truly understand the other we find it easier to be triggered into a basically dualistic war.
Another quick example:
The Ukraine War: Everybody is pointing fingers – Putin is responsible so we need to send weapons and war ammunition to Ukraine so we can annihilate Putin’s army. That doesn’t look like a strategy to end the war from any angle. Nobody seems to realize that people will continue to die and cities will continue to be destroyed. The mainstream media encourages the citizen to think that we need to go and fight with Putin no matter the casualties.
Why not maybe give Putin something that he wants which must be better than going through war. Diplomacy is what should be used. It’s the 22nd century and we still fight like in WW2 which is rather strange.
When dealing with conflict how evolved are the parts involved will reflect in how bitter or ugly a conflict is. It doesn’t have to look bad and it doesn’t have to be noisy. Instruments available should be: introspection first before any verbal interaction, ask yourself: what’s for me to learn in this ? If that triggers me why is that ? What part of me I’ve been suppressing and now it wants to be addressed and acknowledged ? Because that’s all it takes: to shed the light of awareness on the aspects of yourself you’ve been suppressing / denying. To realize you had beliefs /associations / regrets /fears that you didn’t know you have. It’s enough to become conscious of them and they will dissolve. And if it takes a conflict for that to happen, your Higher Self / Soul will organize it for you. Again and again even if it takes lifetimes.
Conflict as an opportunity
For those of you who are afraid that when a conflict arises that means you’re out of alignment know that: you are called to move on to a higher state. Your obsolete beliefs and concepts are now challenged to be dropped and replaced with a new mind and psychological structure, your inner being is being reorganized. Take the conflict as a test an as an opportunity.
How one deals with conflict is paramount and can lead to a shift in consciousness. The higher the level of consciousness, the more elegant and graceful behavior.
There is usually pain in the process, learn to accept that like a birth pain. Just make sure the pain was not in vain. Use the conflict to sort out that issue once and for all. Ask for help if necessary. We don’t have to be alone in this.
If you have to live another incarnation, would be nice to be a better experience than the current one right? Why experiencing same kind of life just with different characters and a different scenery ? Don’t waste your soul’s chance to grow ! It can then present you with unfathomable new experiences!